September 9, 2015

Messy Marriage

Ephesians 4:17-29
My daughter once asked me one night what I thought my greatest accomplishment was. I smiled, then teared up and said, “Being an encouragement to your father.” I explained to her that very early in our relationship, I decided that was what he needed most from me. So I made it my mission to build him up and to be his biggest fan. Of all the decisions I have made in my life, that one is right up there with my salvation and my call into ministry because I truly believe it was that decision that has made my marriage such a success.

One of my greatest pet peeves is when a woman says awful things about her husband. I remember sitting in the bleachers at a softball game listening to two women completely berate their husbands. Words like “idiot,” “stupid,” and “loser” spewed out of their mouths like noxious fumes. I was mortified. After a few more games, I realized that husband-bashing was these ladies’ favorite past-time. Sadly, it came as no surprise to me that just a few years later, both of their marriages ended in divorce.

Choosing to be an encouragement to your spouse will not only transform him/her, you will also find yourself transformed in the process along with your relationship.