September 19, 2015

Messy Marriage

Matthew 5:27-28
Pornography is a serious issue among believers and nonbelievers with often devastating consequences. Every time I hear about a couple or teenager struggling with pornography, I always think about the little song I sang when I was a child: “Oh, be careful little eyes what you see.” I love how Casting Crowns incorporated it into their hit Slow Fade (see YouTube video at We all must be vigilant in protecting our eyes from seeing things that initiate impure thoughts.

Consider the following statistics from

• Just seven years ago, global porn revenues were estimated at $20 billion, with $10 billion coming from US consumers. However, by 2011 both global and U.S. porn revenues had been reduced by 50%, due in large part to the amount of free pornography available online. It is estimated that 80-90% of Internet porn users only access free online material. As far as online pornography is concerned, from 2001 to 2007, the Internet porn industry went from a $1-billion-a-year industry to $3-billion-a-year in the US alone.

• Paul Fishbein, founder of Adult Video News, is right when he says, “Porn doesn’t have a demographic—it goes across all demographics.” After an analysis of 400 million web searches, researchers concluded that 1 in 8 of all searches online is for erotic content.

• The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reports that 56% of divorce cases involve one party having “an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.” According to numerous studies, prolonged exposure to pornography leads to:
* a diminished trust between intimate couples
* the belief that promiscuity is the natural state
* cynicism about love or the need for affection between sexual partners
* the belief that marriage is sexually confining
* a lack of attraction to family and child-raising

If you or your spouse is struggling with an addiction to pornography, there is an excellent article by Jack Wellman entitled, “How to Overcome an Addiction to Pornography? Help for Struggling Christians” at While this article offers good ideas to at least begin confronting the problem, professional help in the form of a Christian counselor may be necessary to achieve complete recovery.