September 17, 2015

Messy Marriage

Proverbs 25:28
Yesterday, we read the passage where Jesus said sexual immorality is the only basis for divorce. But what should be done about instances of severe physical or emotional abuse? Should the non-offending spouse endure torment and agony at the hands of their mate who is out of control? Absolutely not!

God expects us to love each other and to submit to one another in love (John 13:34, Ephesians 5:21). Physical violence is against the law, and no one should have to put up with it for any reason. If there is physical abuse involved, the authorities should be the first ones to know.

Those being abused, be it a spouse or children, should find a safe place where they can be protected and taken out of the situation right away. The Bible does not indicate that separation (not divorce) in this instance would be wrong. For everyone's safety, it would probably be the best thing. Friends and family are pretty likely to suggest divorce as the only way, but God places a huge value on marriage. Therefore, reconciliation should always be the ultimate goal.

Remember, God has total control over everything (Romans 11:36). Whatever the outcome of a marriage, God is completely sovereign over what happens.