September 11, 2015

Messy Marriage

Ephesians 5:25-33
According to 5:25-27, husbands are to so love and sacrifice themselves for their wives that the wife can remain "blameless"—that is, he should make sure he never puts her in a position where she has to risk her integrity.

Husbands should remember that in marriage, the two became one. Everything the husband does reflects on his wife. Every disgrace he subjects her to stains him. Every time he makes her life difficult, he makes his own difficult. But every time he respects and builds up his wife, his own dignity shines.

Husbands are to show agape love to their wives—that hard, sacrificial love that puts another's needs above one's own. At the same time, wives are to phobeo their husbands— which means to treat with deference or reverential obedience.

If a couple has come to the conclusion that for wives to "submit" means the husband makes all the decisions and the wife makes all the meals, they have a very skewed view of the world in which we live. In the movie We Were Soldiers Once, Lt. Col. Hal Moore explains: "You know what Air Cavalry really means? You fly into hostile territory, outnumbered, 10,000 miles from home. Sometimes the battleground is no bigger than a football field, and if the choppers stop coming, we all get slaughtered." We tie the hands of wives when we describe them as merely virtuous or excellent. Proverbs 31:10 describes the ideal wife as valiant—a strong, heroic warrior. Such power working independently is destructive to the relationship, the family, and the church. But such power voluntarily submitted to the leader God has placed over her is destructive to the plans of the enemy. [Article from]